Tonight I go Vintage …

Black felt hat

Maroon off the shoulder number

and one great pair of grey slouchies

Caressing a lipstick stained glass of pinot noir in one hand and a menthol slim in the other

I’m off for a night of TIFF………

Sex Report …

Sunday night Lora, Sabrina and I gave in and finally went to see the much talked about and overhyped “Sex and the City, THE movie.”

Let me start by saying that I was not a regular viewer of the series, but did on occassion catch an episode here and there.  Now I am not a fan of drama, nor do I buy into the “fake” hollywood friendships that are propogated on the show, but I am a complete fashion whore and well … Carrie’s clothes the show appeals to the senses. 

I love fashion and everything about that fast paced world; the colour, the non-colour, the deadlines, the runway, the shoes and the list can go on for an eternity.  It is a world that excites me.  Having been in the industry myself, I can say that seeing my work strut down a long New York, Paris or Milan runway is a dream that I will forever aspire for.  This of course would be accompanied by inhabiting the most awe inspiring home/studio loft.  The point I’m trying to make here is that the movie stirred up all those feelings in me once again.  I have been away from that world for a little over three years and something Sunday night rekindled in me.

Going back to the movie …

So out of the theatre we come, almost three hours later and much to my surprise, I liked it!  I laughed, I cried, I wondered, I yearned and I understood.  I understood that friendships are not really like that.  I am sure that a closeness between friends is not unheard of as I am fortunate enough to share closeness in my own circle, but the extreme measures that these fab four go to to be there for one another, I think, is a little “Hollywood.”  Call me cynical, but girls will be girls and at some point or another the green envy monster debuts.  Life happens and its not always that easy to drop everything on a dime to run to a  crying friend (especially one that may have very well ruined your would-have-been-fabulous wedding).  Don’t get me wrong here, I would do anything for my bestest of friends, but its just not always that easy.   Furthermore, the fact that everyone gets their happy ending is both dumb and predictable.  The final wedding to Big was even more assinine and completely unnecessary.  The realization that Carrie and Big came to was that they didn’t need to be officially married to be happy, but they did it anyway! argghhh… Needless to say, I hated the ending.  I guess I’d be foolish to expect anything else, it is afterall, Hollywood … the land of perfection. 

Ultimately, what came out of this in the end for me was a moment of self-actualization.  What is funny is that the greatest lessons for me were learned from Samantha and Miranda; the two least perfect of the four.  I took away that it is so easy to stay on a path that feels comfortable and safe; but I feel that this is a path that leads to a slow and inevitable death as it is here that we lose a sense of who we are as individuals.  Remaining in a situation that no longer challenges the heart, mind and body does injustice to all those involved.   As cliche as it sounds, life is short and we have one stab at it.  There is no chance to go back and do it all over again.   We need to live and take risks and aspire for all those things that may not be achievable … but in that chase, “we live.”

Lastly, forgiveness.  A concept that I struggle with in my own life.  I often find myself so quick to hold a grudge against someone that has faulted me.  For most of these situations I am able to forget, but to forgive is something different altogether.  You see, I do not think I could have forgiven Steve like Miranda did.  But then I realized that we all make mistakes.  We are beautifully flawed by nature.  It is what we learn and how we act after those mistakes that is a true test of character.  I hope to have a more open heart after this. 

 Anyhow, who would have seen this coming? Hmmph. I’m amazed myself.

Go out and see it, you may be as surprised as I was!